Summer Lovin' - Ways to Turn Up The Heat in Your Love Life

Summer is in full swing and if you looking for ways to turn up the heat in your love life, you’re in the right place.  Whoopie Queen Cyndy Bragg just celebrated her 13th wedding anniversary and she’s here to give tips on how to keep things steamy, even if you're wilting in the heat.   

1.     LIGHT THE FIRES

Start with the drink of the summer - the Moscow Mule.  I add jalapeno to the recipe,  which has aphrodisiac qualities to sizzle things up. 

Moscow Mules for Four:

300 ml Vodka
100 ml Lime Juice (Key West Lime Juice or 3 limes)

750 ml Ginger Beer

2 slices of jalapeno

Research shows that the key to keep FIRES BURNING in a relationship is to be PLAYFUL and ADVENTUROUS.  I call this keeping your own desires lit within.  There is more insight at the current issue of Psychology Today.  Most of the article suggests that shared responsibilities of house and home keeps the relationship simmering.   Men who vacuum, get more action.  It's what long time married gals call Porn for Women.

 

DATE IDEAS FOR A SUMMER GLOW:

•  Visit the DC monuments at night.

•  Go dancing under the lights at Glen Echo's big band bashes every Saturday.

•  Redbook Magazine recommends listening to erotica on a road trip.  Kiss Your Ear.

2.     GET FRESH

Would you want to date yourself?   I have a friend who says, “The best way to be adored is to be adorable.”  Freshen up things with your partner – flirt, write notes on the mirror, text a sexy something-something, send flowers IN AN ICE CUBE.  Edible flowers are available at Whole Foods. 

 FRESH DATE IDEAS: 

·      Go to a museum and count the nudes, i.e. Baltimore Museum of Art, Or book a Find The Nudes Scavenger Hunt in several cities - http://www.watsonadventures.com/public/event/the-naked-at-the-art-museum-scavenger-hunt-4/ 

·      Marathon House of Cards or Scandal and meet at POV, the bar at The W Hotel overlooking the White House.

·  Take iced coffee and bagels for breakfast at the National Zoo.  It opens at 6am, which is when the animals are frisky.  Woo hoo!

3.  SMOLDER IT UP AT HOME
People are so busy these days with work & family that time for connecting gets lost.  The last thing ya want to do if you're exhausted at the end of the day is to get-it-on.  Why wait until the end of the day?

           DATE IDEAS: 

·      Book a “Bedroom Date," i.e., have a nooner.

·      Create Lover’s Lane in your driveway – makeout in your car.

·      Put a blanket down in your backyard, surrounded with Glow Jars, and watch the fireflies attract their mates.  

GLOW JARS HOW-TO:  Glow Jars are like having a beautiful, giant firefly bootie. 

1. Break a glow stick & shake it.  (Don't use glitter, it clumps up the goo.)

2. Cut off top & pour goo into Mason jar and screw on lid. 

3. Shake it but don't break it, took ya mama nine months to make it. Whoop POW!

31 Ways to Romance Your Lover

August is National Romance Month.  Never fear, The Whoopie Queen is here with ideas to make the last month of summer juicy like a watermelon.   

Romance is a verb - "to woo."   A few years back I was talking with a friend about how much effort a relationship requires.  She replied, "Yeah, but what's the alternative?!"  That is when it hit me.  Before I married Dan, we had a LOVE AFFAIR.  The alternative is terrible if we stop "wooing."  People settle into the doldrums of marriage.  Marriage is an "institution" and you know what happens to the people in institutions?  They are drugged and die slowly.  Instead, I suggest that couples be lovers.  They feel alive.  Lovers don't take each other for granted.  They appreciate each other.  They don't keep score.  They do things to keep interest peaked.  They flirt.  They text.  They call.  They write each other sexy notes.  They make plans to spend time together (especially without kids).  They hold a special place of honor for each ohter.  They get naked.  They have sex.   Yes, let's be lovers! 

So in honor of a steamy, sizzling, August Romance, I give you 31 Ways to Romance Your Lover this month:

1. Go to a photo booth and take make-out pics.
2. Book a sitter for a Saturday mid-day, have her get kids out of house and have afternoon delight.
3. Go for a walk in the park while eating popsicles.
4. Make a playlist for your lover.
5. Leave post-it love notes all over the inside of your lover's car.
6. Drive-in movie on back porch w/brown-sugar popcorn and flick on the ipad.
7. Send a whoopie gram to work - favorite candy bar with sexy note in briefcase.
8. Write each other Mad Libs Notes.  http://www.thedatingdivas.com/wp-content/uploads/Sarina-Madlibs-MadAboutYouANDMadlyInLove.pdf
9. Drive separately & pick each other up at a bar. 
10. Make Your Lover's Favorite Ice Cream w/vanilla in the freezer & favorite candy bars on the ready.
11. Hold hands on a beach walk and talk about your fav beach trips. 
12. Leave a love note on the mirror, written with a Sharpie. It washes off.
13. Find a funny, laugh out loud card and mail it to your lover's office.
14. Make breakfast in bed FOR DINNER.
15. Walk arm-n-arm at a haunted location in your town.  In Georgetown, I want to visit The Exorcist steps. 
16. Make a list of reasons why you are grateful to be with your lover.  
17. Learn about the opposite sex and tell your lover about it.  http://www.medicinenet.com/18_secrets_men_want_you_to_know_pictures_slideshow/article.htm
18. Say to your lover when you awake in the morning:  "What can I do for you today that will make your life easier and less stressful?"  Then do it.
19. Flirt with your lover in an unusual place...in a store checkout line, while making dinner, while doing yard work...
20. Flash your lover.
21. Go through pics of your past together while listening to music.
22. Surprise your lover.
23. Dance together.  Salsa.  Swing.  Tango.
24. Send a sext message.  Just do it!
25. Ok, if you can't sext, send your lover a romantic line of poetry.  For a little help on the poem front:  http://ingenira.hubpages.com/hub/Romantic-Love-Quotes-for-Valentines-Day AND http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-love-poems.php.
26. Pour a glass of wine and take a stroll together through your neighborhood after dinner.
27. Grab some flesh.  A pat.  A squeeze.       
28. Shower together.
29. Have a secret phrase to tell you're lover he/she is hot, like “Are we due for an oil change?” No will know what it means but you.  (That's not our phrase!)
30. Go and kiss under the stars.
31. Make a love montage of couple pictures and frame it.

For more ideas:
http://www.thegloss.com/2008/04/28/fashion/101-romantic-things-to-do-with-your-partner/ 

http://www.wifemomsuperwoman.com/2012/10/01/30-non-cheesy-date-night-ideas/